Recently, I came across with a book by Kristin Neff, called Self Compassion.
This is a great book for me!
I have been using Self Compassion as a tool for a while, and it helped me to quiet my negative self talk.
I have a sister who is 2 years older than me.
She was taller, stronger, smarter, faster…what else? Ah, prettier one.
I’m sure she had her own complex but it doesn’t apply to me.
No matter whatever I do and however I do things, I couldn’t beat her.
And worst of all, she was always 2 years ahead of me!!!
Before I left home to an university, I developed my inferiority.
It popped out every time I felt or rather my ego felt that I was challenged.
But there’s always someone who does everything better than you, there’s no peace for me, until I came across with energy healing.
Until then, I wasn’t at all aware of my negative self talk!
I felt awful becoming aware of my own thoughts.
Now, thanks to my training, I’m super aware of my own thoughts and feelings, I can now make a conscious choice to keep criticising myself or something else.
I chose self compassion.
I can catch myself when an aspect of me who is very critical of myself surfaces, as another aspect of me begin to create emotions and sensations like anxiousness and sadness.
When I catch myself creating that feelings, I stop and tune into my thoughts carefully.
When I found Energy Healing, it helped me to be aware of my core belief and I released it.
But after that, I had to re-train my brain (so to speak) to be positive about me, which was a very strange thing for my brain which was so used to be critical about me.
Do you know the term called homeostasis?
It’s the human condition to maintain what is.
So naturally, it doesn’t like the change.
Whenever we try to choose something else, it pulls us back with warning.
Because it takes “change” as a danger.
Self compassion is a great tool, to retrain your brain to speak about self in a more loving way.
I begin my day with a meditation.
I set my intent and remind why I’m doing what I’m doing.
I close my day with another meditation to release what’s misaligned.
Here & Now.
Sometimes, what we are doing “Here & Now” doesn’t seem to be connected to where we want to go.
Then typically, we feel anxious, impatient etc…
My daily meditation routine helps me check in with my intention.
So that I remember why I’m doing what I’m doing now.
Are you familiar with meditation?
Try to start quieting your mind as you sit up straight, with your eyes closed.
You can experience a guided meditation in the session too.
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I am a very emotional person.
I didn’t want to accept it as I was often being told by my parents, teachers etc like, “You take everything personal!”
I felt like I was told that it was my fault, when someone made a bad joke that hurt me, for example.
As I look back, it was my fault that I felt bad, in a way but what I wanted to hear from them was “ Aww, I totally understand how you feel. I get it. It’s not your fault!”
It never came.
So I became rigid with my stance, that was “I’m sensitive and you hurt me!”
It formed a belief eventually without my awareness.
It became my functioning system.
I didn’t know why it felt so personal, when someone said so and so did a good job and so on.
I felt unnecessarily compared, challenged and discredited.
I didn’t know why I was feeling that way.
It used to exhaust me.
1) Make a decision
Eventually, I told myself that I had enough of this way of being.
I wanted to change.
2) Feel how you feel
But first, I had to face up with myself to see what was really going on with me.
This aspect of me, who was so emotional and couldn’t help herself from taking many things if not everything, personal.
3) Accept how you feel
Once I fully accepted that I’m sensitive and I take things personally, I could finally make a choice.
4) Make a choice
A conscious choice.
I chose to be different.
I chose not to take things personally.
I had to choose not to take things personally on each occasion, reminding myself that I made a decision not to be that way.
How Energy Healing helped my transition
Energy Healing definitely helped me to make this transition happened so much faster as I cleared of my core belief that made me rigid to change myself to function another way.
Re-Train your brain!
But also, I had to train myself, my brain to start functioning in a different way.
When I first came across with energy healing, I thought this part of process would take place automatically.
Maybe it happens automatically to some, but it wasn’t for me and I know from my own experience as a practitioner, it doesn’t happen automatically to most of the people.
Either way, it’s better to start now than never.
It’s a choice!
If you feel like you have a habit of feeling negative about yourself for example, and have worked on yourself for some time but it feels taking too long to process, please first accept that you “are” negative to yourself.
Then, please make a choice, a conscious deliberate choice to be positive and supportive about yourself.
And after making that decision, please commit to your decision and to yourself.
You are good, as you are fully made of Source energy.
Thank you for being there and thank you for reading.
I do meditate often nowadays and I use it in my energy healing sessions.
But in the beginning, I couldn’t focus very well.
Every time I tried to quiet my mind, there’s something popping up!
What did I do?
I did something very drastic!
I decided to DO EVERYTHING that came up in my mind!
For example, if I suddenly remember that I was going to clear my wardrobe, I would break my meditation and went straight to my wardrobe to clear!
One by one, day by day, I cleared all these little things from my mind.
But there’s always something, right?
Nowadays, it doesn’t bother me so much like it used, but I place (not push) my both index finger on my temples at the beginning of my meditation.
Just like reminding myself where to focus, that’s the centre of the brain.
And magically, this little gesture to place my fingers on my temples helps me focus.
Give it a try!
My name is Kaeko, I’m from Japan and living in London.